Stilling is not considered using the power as a weapon, because you are causing no physical harm to the man. Sure you are removing his ability to channel, but that doesn't mean you are killing him.
Consider first that this comes from the perspective of someone who hasn't read much of the novels. Okay, ready?
Now, as a personal opinion, robbing a person of their sense of well-being is 
worse, and a whole lot messier, than straight-up killing them.
Second, whose definitions do these oaths have to follow?
I mean, I don't like the way that guy across the street is looking at me. He might be a threat to my life. I kill him.
Now, that fits the above psychopath's definition of self-defence, but is a vastly unreasonable decision by any other account. Yet it's permitted under the oaths.
And what definition of 'weapon'? Like I said, stealing a man's sense of joy in life is a lot nastier to me than just stealing the life. So to me, stilling would be a much worse weapon than a knife. And for that matter, mind control or alteration are even nastier, and not even 
touched on by the oaths. Heck, let's just be blatant: 'I would not hurt thee for all the world, but I'm about to shoot in that general direction and you might do well to get out of the way'.
How about indirect effects? Say, start a fire. I didn't create a weapon, I created a fire. It's not a weapon for a man to kill another with (hell, if we're both female, I could create a fricken nuclear-tipped assault rifle and who could say nay?), but a natural force that may well kill someone, and will with a little creativity.
Or you can still just try to scare the shit out of them with a lot of 'near shots'.
While we're at it, what's a loved one? What if there's a guy across the street who's about to get killed by someone or another? Strictly following the Oaths, I can't do shit, but if I decide I love him, I could do whatever I want.
These 'contractual' loopholes are so easy to toy around with it's not even funny. Just turns the oaths into a joke.
There is no problem that cannot be solved through the proper application of immense levels of firepower.
- Finally promoted to Spammaster Indeterminate Rank as of June 18, by Stratagemini
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